That’s interesting to think about. If I didn’t have to work for money, will I still work?
A few years ago, I was unemployed for the first time in my life. I had been working for about 13 years and wanting a change of scene, gave up my existing job for brighter horizons. I had imagined to take a break from work. I thought it will be the ideal time to look after my babies who were very young then, with the younger one being only 2 years old. I was imagining myself being the perfect housewife with a beautiful house, beautiful children and warm variety of foods for the family.
I was in this heaven for a couple of weeks. Then I realised the pointlessness of the whole thing. It was a cycle everyday, to get up, look after the family needs and the house needs. But, I was feeling left out of the whole real world. I was having no time to spend on myself. No outings with friends as they were busy in their lives. No meeting up my parents every other day as I had imagined. Soon, I started losing interest in the creation of the perfect family. I started getting irritated about everything, snap at my sons and husband. I would wait the whole day for the husband to come back from work so that I can talk with him. Whereas, all he wanted after a tiring day was to be left alone. The environment at home was getting more vicious by the day.
One day, my elder son who was around 9 years old came up to me and asked me, ‘Mom, why don’t you go to work?’ It seemed like the last straw. Here, I was sacrificing my life for the family and they didn’t seem to want me. I snapped at him saying, ‘Why, don’t you want me at home to look after you?’ To which he replied ‘I definitely like to have you at home, mom. But, I think you will be more happy if you are working.’ Then realisation hit me. I realised that instead of enjoying my domestic life, somewhere inside me I was craving to work outside. I wanted my independence, my satisfaction, my sense of value. And it is okay to be ambitious. I am not really hurting my family by wanting to work. I realised, that to have a happy family, I need to be at peace with myself first. I got onto a job the next month and am really enjoying my work life.
Sometimes, work is not really about earning the money. I think, I would be definitely working and contributing something useful for the world.
If money were out of the equation, would you still work? If yes, why, and how much? If not, what would you do with your free time?