Life goes on #MondayMusings

autumn-LIFE GOES ONIt feels like a distant past when I would be rushing around life, doing my job, taking care of family and being busy in keeping the wheels of life churning along smoothly.  Every time I would wish for 30 minutes of peace,  an extra hour to sleep in with no disturbances.  Many times, I would wonder,  is it all worth it?  On the surface,  I was busy.  But inside,  I was exhausted and fatigued.

Then came the diagnosis that I need to undergo a double surgery.  The doctor took one look at me and said,  you need to exercise and get the body fitter to undergo surgery.  I started planning immediately on the need to squeeze out some ‘me’ time.  

I blocked my work calendar on outlook for 1 hour in the evening everyday.  I forced myself to go for a one hour walk.  I guarded the hour like something precious.  Nothing could dissuade me from this golden hour.  Unless of course, there were some exceptions and I couldn’t move it.

I was worried about the family getting on life without my support.  I had planned to the last nitty-gritty of everyday life, stocked up on food and emergencies.  I had to do a detailed ‘knowledge transfer’ to the husband and children.

Its been 3 weeks since the surgery and I am in the process of getting back to normal.   There have been a few realizations along the way.  The biggest being,  life goes on without me.  It was disappointing but,  everyone survived without me.  The husband,  the kids,  the parents, work, the maid, everyone.  And I thought of the stress I had put in routine life.

When I resume my normal routine,  I know that I will be a changed person.  I will let others in my family take on additional responsibilities.   I do not need to ‘be there’ all the time.  I should stop thinking of myself as important to others.  I can focus on having more ‘me’ time.  I can get back to a healthier life, be less cranky and exhausted all the time.

Life will go on and we will survive.


26 thoughts on “Life goes on #MondayMusings

  1. Good luck Lata. Wishing you a speedy recovery. And it’s always nice to slip in some “me” time apart from exercise time.

    P.S. I think we should be happy about the fact that relations go on without us. Else our minds would go insane 😉

  2. Here’s wishing you a speedy recovery 🙂
    What a powerful realization this has been. Sometimes, life forces us to stop and see what we could do differently to lead a calmer life and I believe this episode has been your moment of being shaken up.
    Please continue your one hour evening walks and I second your idea of getting the family to shoulder more responsibilities than they have been thus far.
    Take care 🙂

  3. Wish you a healthy life ahead.
    It intrigues me when you describe about life, its nuances and how we completely forget about ourselves while being a total machine.
    Some parts may be true, life goes on.. but the essence of being missed can not be expressed or felt… its just vacuum…never felt but its there somewhere 🙂

  4. Wish you a quick recovery Lata. It’s a very important lesson you have written about. I hurts at first but life becomes so much simpler once you realise that life indeed goes on. Oh I so wish that my Mom too take a note on this.

  5. I hope you are feeling much better now and a lot more lighter. Having some ‘me time’ to self in the whole scheme of daily routine does work wonders. Keep you walking time intact. ‘Me time’ + ‘walking time’ will surely be equal to a healthy mind and body. I have too understood the value of it recently.
    Wishing you speedy recovery.

  6. Take care Lata. Life will go on and we must take care of ourselves. It was one of my recent learning. It’s funny how we think that we have to be everywhere to make it go smooth, but it’s disappointing and a relief at the same time to find out that it is not the case.

  7. Wishing you a full and healing recovery, Lata. Yes, we often live with this delusion that life might stop without us 🙂 But thankfully, the world and people in our lives are saner than us and know better 🙂 I guess we all need such humbling and sobering reminders now and then. Take good care.

  8. Lata – hope you are feeling better and recovering well. You are right about life. It goes on without us. Even for our near and close ones. But we feel otherwise and that’s why is stop delegating and doing it all by ourselves. Don’t stop waking and hold on to that one hour of your day 🙂 Hugs and get better soon.

  9. That’s a wonderful realization. Something good does come out of all adversity. I am glad that you are also devoting time to ‘me’. Hope you are doing well now.

  10. Alas it’s true. Life does indeed go on without us. But isn’t that great? It means that we don’t have to stress on getting everything right for everyone all the time. Cheer up. You will soon get your spirit back as your strength and will then once again find yourself to be the fulcrum of your family’s universe.

  11. It sounds like having to step back for a while has done you some good in the long term, the realisation that you can spend more time on yourself and things won’t fall apart!

  12. Wishing you a speedy recovery, Lata. Often adversities help us see things in a new light and realisations come to help us make us see how we can change our perspective at such times. Life does go on without us and the sooner we realise it, we feel lighter even if initially disappointed. ‘Me time’ is an absolute must for all of us!

  13. I hope you’re well on the way to recovery, Lata. Funny, my mind was working on the same lines when I wrote my post last night. It’s funny how we feel that life will come to a standstill without us, isn’t it? Yours must have a been a simultaneously humbling and freeing realization.

  14. My heart goes out for you, Mam. I hope you get well soon. I am at a loss of words though. I do not know if life goes on. It might. But the void one leaves is irreparable. Take care..

    1. Thanks Shalini. I understand from where you are speaking. Thankfully, in my case, this is only temporary and I thank God for that. Its a trial run 🙂

  15. That’s a great epiphany you’ve had Lata. Sometimes we need things like this to happen to make us realise the importance of delegating to others. Life does go on. And you need to look after yourself first and foremost before everyone else. Only once you look after yourself, will you have the strength to look after others. Much love! Hope you recover completely soon. xx

  16. Wishing you a quick recovery, Lata. 🙂 And even when life does go back to normal, don’t leave that one hour. It always helps when you have some time to contemplate, and take a breather!

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