No Safe Zone

No Safe Zone

no-safe-zoneAs a bride, when I entered my matrimonial home,  surrounded by strangers, to say I was nervous and scared is an understatement.  Being from a region very different from the new home,  I did not know what to expect.  At 23,  there were only stars in my eyes.  I longed for an ideal home,  just like my own home.  But now this was home.

One of my husband’s cousin’s wife had taken over the kitchen.  Just a few years older than me,  she was a champion.  Doling out regular cups of tea and coffee, snacks and dinner,  she worked round the clock,  with a smile.

I could only imagine myself in the future at some other cousin’s wedding going through the motions.  I felt it was no safe zone.  Not like my home, tch tch.. mom’s home.

Then I saw my husband, sitting in a group, laughing away at jokes and being teased by the cousins.  I sought him.  At that moment,  he looked up and our eyes met.  With the slightest motion of his head,  he acknowledged me.  I knew then,  that everything will be alright.  He will be my pillar of strength in this world.


Have you ever faced a moment like that?  where you could instantly connect with someone?


12 thoughts on “No Safe Zone

  1. Mine was not an arranged marriage. So the connection with my husband before we even wanted get married to each other. He was there for me at tough times when he didn’t have to. Of course, the first time at his house after the weddjng ceremony was strange for me too, just like it was to any new bride. Having someone by our whom we can count on makes all the difference. 🙂 Sweet post, Lata.

  2. The man it is. And I’ll always be grateful for him. You know my story. It was never a safe zone. But he brought me into this safe zone.

    1. Yours was much more difficult what with so much opposition from the family. But your husband is very sweet and strong to stand by his decision.

  3. It makes so much difference in life when your partner understands you without exchanging words. I’m sure most newly weds go through this trauma and it really helps to have an understanding spouse to make you comfortable.

    1. Yes true. With arranged marriages, or even love marriages for that matter, isn’t the new home alien when you go there the first time and hope things are good for you. Thanks for visiting.

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