Mom & Son : Perspective

Mom & Son : Perspective

The son thinks Mom is the best
no one loves mom more than him
his world revolves around the mom
following mom wherever she goes
talking to mom the whole day

     It’s the same with Mom,
     he is her complete world
     reason for her existence
     the one who called her ‘mom’ first
     who taught mom a whole lot of experiences
     which she was more than happy to experience

Where is the son now.
where is the loving mom now
there is no longer childish pratter
the toys are neatly in place
no more mom and son going out together

Oh! the son is a teenager now

   He thinks mom is just a nag
   mom is so ancient
   mom doesn’t understand him
   mom doesn’t know what he wants
   mom is so uncool to be with

Mom thinks the son is still a baby
son needs to be looked after, cared for
mom is trying to understand the changes
not realising the son has grown
son is more independent

   Give the son his space mom
   Let him grow up
   let him understand his own life
   let him fall down and get up
   let him make his own choices

Soon, he will be a grown up man
and will be a mirror image of YOU!

An old photograph

kerala

Recently,  I came across an old photograph of mine with my brother, sister and uncle (mom’s brother).  It’s colors had faded.  I was nice and thin wearing a fiery red salwar kameez,  my sister in a green frock,  my brother wearing a short dark pant and checkered shirt looking very boyish with thick wavy hair on his head.  My uncle, a young man in his early twenties, looking dashing in his shirt and printed lungi.  The four of us are sitting near a lagoon (the famous Kerala backwaters), which is just about 100 meters away from my house. The ground is very green with grass,  the backdrop is of thick, old, gnarled trees and coconut trees.  My uncle, being only a few years older to me, was more like a cousin, than uncle.  We are all looking at the camera and appear to be smiling at some joke. Memories came back of an era and a way of life gone by.

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Back to Life after Work

Lately,  I have been working from home.  Many people think it is the ideal way of working as you get the benefits of working as well as staying at home.  I agree with them, to a certain extent, but it also comes up with another side-effect.  The absolute blurring of work-life balance.  There is no clear cut distinction between your work space and home space, work time and home time.  Here, we may be attending an important meeting and immediately after that the kids will come back from school and they need our immediate attention.

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Whats life without Best Friends!

I have known my best friends for 35 years of my almost 40 years of life.  I can’t remember when we became friends.  But they (2 of them) have always been part of my life. So, what do I do to deserve and maintain such good friends. Nothing, actually.

We just know each other inside out.  We, being of the same age, been through all stages of lives together.  If one of us is having a problem, we reach out to each other.  We have sought each other when making life changing decisions. The best thing about having a best friend is that you can be yourself.  You can be sure you will not be judged by the choices made by you.  And you can tell your heart out and be sure that it will remain with the friend.  And even if you don’t tell your heart out,  the unsaid will be understood by your bestie.

Since then, we have all got married and got busy with our lives, our kids and families, but we still know that we are there for each other.  I also did loose contact with them for some time but when I was going through a crisis, they traced my number and called me up.  And the first thing they said was, ‘we know how you are feeling’,  which was more than enough for me to cry my eyes out and spill out all my woes.  I remember the lazy days we spent sharing our desires, loves, hopes, dreams, fears with each other.

And I thank God for giving me such lovely friends.  Really, what would life be like if we don’t have a few best friends!

On Bees and Efs

Do you — or did you ever — have a Best Friend? Do you believe in the idea of one person whose friendship matters the most? Tell us a story about your BFF (or lack thereof).

We Are Like That Only

We Are Like That Only

i came across this interesting post about eve-teasing. And as rightfully, the author says here, we are so used to it, that we are not even giving it a thought. And the perpertrators are getting away with it.